![4 Ways to Surpass That Auto-Pilot Lifestyle & Wow Yourself]()
People
A few weeks ago, I introduced the PULSE© coaching model that I use to help clients get their lives back in balance. The following is a recap: the first letter in the acronym – “P” for paradigm and “U” for unearth. Last week was “L” for Linger.
We have learned over the past few weeks how to shift our Paradigm, Unearth our talents and strengths, and how to Linger in the present.
Now it’s time to Surpass and take our lives to the next level. Are you ready to move above and beyond the life that you’ve been living? Are you sick and tired of simply existing each day and living your life on auto-pilot?
Surpass toxic thoughts that have held you back. Surpass self-limiting behaviors you exhibit day after day that have kept you stuck and feeling powerless and stressed out.
Surpass: to become better, greater, or stronger than : exceed <surpassed her rivals> <surpassed all expectations>
: to go beyond : overstep
: to transcend the reach, capacity, or powers of <a beauty that surpasses description>
When you make the choice to implement new behaviors and new ways of thinking into your life you do better because you know better. According to author Angel Chernoff, in order to move forward we must give up the following:
1. First and foremost, give up the excuses you keep reciting to yourself.
Because all the excuses and explanations in the world won’t do you any good. They won’t add any value to your life or improve the quality of it by even the slightest margin. To fulfill your calling and get where you wish to go in life requires more than just thinking and talking. These feats require focused and sustained action. You just have to choose to actually do it.
Sooner or later you will come to realize that it’s not what you lose along the way that counts; it’s what you do with what you still have. When you let go of the past, forgive what needs forgiving, and move forward, you in no way change the past, you change the future.
2. Once you’re over the excuses, give up the idea that you don’t have what it takes.
You do have exactly what it takes. Will it be easy? Absolutely not! Nobody is going to blindside you and hit you as hard as life will. But it’s not about how hard life can hit you; it’s about how hard you can be hit and continue to move forward. That’s what true strength is. And that’s what winning the game of life is all about. So keep going.
In the end, all the small things make a big difference. Every step is crucial. Life isn’t about a single moment of great triumph and attainment. It’s about the trials and errors that slowly get you there – the blood, the sweat, the tears, and the small, inconsequential things you do on a day-to-day basis. It all matters in the end – every step, every regret, every decision, and every affliction.
3. Give up focusing on what’s wrong, and start noticing what’s right.
What you see often depends entirely on what you are looking for. Do your best and surrender the rest. The happiest and most successful people do not live with a certain set of circumstances, but rather with a certain set of attitudes. Choosing to be positive and grateful for what you have now is going to determine how you’re going to live the rest of your life. So look for something positive about today. Even if you have to look a little harder than usual, it still exists.
So don’t wait until everything is just right; it will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what! Get started now! With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger. And no matter what happens, just do your best and appreciate what you’re learning. You won’t enjoy your life if you don’t enjoy your challenges.
4. Give up the tendency to get too caught up in other people’s judgments and opinions.
Honestly, the biggest prison you will likely ever live in is your fear of what other people think. You cannot let other people tell you who you are or what you want. You have to decide that for yourself. When you’re making big decisions, remember, what you think of yourself and your life is more important than what people think of you. Don’t let others make you feel guilty for living YOUR life. As long as you’re not hurting anyone else, live it YOUR way.
The bottom line is that when you spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s perception of you, or who everyone else wants you to be, you eventually forget who you truly are. So don’t fear the judgments of others; you know in your heart who you are and what’s true to you.
A Process & a Journey
Surpassing old thoughts and behaviors is a process and a journey. It takes patience. We often want everything to happen overnight. We want results NOW. The exciting part of this coaching model is that you can implement these tools into your life right now. But it still takes practice. It takes perseverance. No one is perfect. No one will ever be perfect. Perfection is not the goal here. Being your BEST self is the goal. Plugging back into your life is the goal.
Once you fully immerse yourself in this process you will begin to surpass – become better, greater, or stronger than you’ve ever been before.
Are you ready for the next step? Message me directly or use the contact form on my page and let’s chat about this exciting coaching journey together! https://execexcellence.wpengine.com/team/jenny-jacobs/
For over a decade Jenny Jacobs has studied the principles of healthy living, life balance, stress management, positive psychology, and self-development. Jenny is a dynamic speaker, coach, and blogger and is passionate about helping people integrate their personal and professional selves.
Driven by the premise that excellence is the result of aligning people, purpose and performance, Center for Executive Excellence facilitates training in leading self, leading teams and leading organizations.
Diversity, Equity, Inclusion
I happened to be in Washington, D.C., visiting the Smithsonian Castle earlier this month when I noticed something curious happening in the gardens just outside. Dozens of life-sized 3D statues of women who have excelled in the fields of science, technology, engineering, and mathematics (STEM) were being set up in honor of Women’s History Month. The Smithsonian called it the largest collection of women statues ever assembled.
The 120 women were selected as Ambassadors by the American Association for the Advancement of Science and Lyda Hill Philanthropies for being trailblazers in their fields, and role models for the next generation of women in STEM. Before Women’s History Month 2022 closes, I wanted to share a few stories of the amazing women featured in this project.
1. Joyonna Gamble-George, Health Scientist
What you should know: Studies factors that contribute to health issues in medically underserved populations.
More about her work: With more than a decade of research expertise in the area of Alzheimer’s disease pathology, anxiety and stress-related disorders, neurotoxicity, drug addiction, and therapeutics, you could say Dr. Joyonna Gamble-George knows a thing or two about the brain! She gives her expertise as a Health Scientist at the National Institutes of Health, National Heart Lung and Blood Disorder Institute. She is also the co-founder of SciX, creating science-based and health-related mobile, wearable applications and devices for monitoring and responding to risk factors responsible for various health conditions, human behaviors, and neuro-sensory thresholds to predict, prevent, and manage life-altering events.
2. Myria Perez, Geologist and Paleontologist
Area of focus: Worked with paleontologist Louis Jacobs to unearth never before seen fossils from Angola.
More about her work: Myria Perez started out as a volunteer at the Houston Museum of Natural Science when she was twelve. She pursued her undergraduate degrees in Geology and Anthropology at Southern Methodist University while working in the fossil labs on campus. During her collegiate years, she conducted research and was a part of a Smithsonian Institution exhibition on Cretaceous marine reptiles from Angola, Sea Monsters Unearthed: Life in Angola’s Ancient Seas. She currently works at the Smithsonian National Museum of Natural History in the Deep Time Fossil Lab, cleaning fossils while inspiring young women in STEM.
3. Jessica Taaffe, Cell and Molecular Biologist
Area of focus: Uses science to tackle global health problems.
More about her work: Dr. Jessica Taaffe is a global health scientist who wants to share her knowledge. She works in Washington, D.C., helping scientists around the world to collaborate and use data science in their infectious disease and global health research. As a global health professional, her goal is to help people, directly impacting global health and international development through policy, advocacy, and communication activities. Her research has focused on tuberculosis, HIV, malaria, influenza and much more. You can catch her as a regular panelist and science correspondent on the Youtube series This Week in Global Health.
4. Ciara Sivels, Nuclear Engineer
Area of focus: Researches nuclear explosion monitoring and treaty verification, and has resulted in four authored publications.
More about her work: Dr. Ciara Sivels is a nuclear engineer, elementary school math mentor, and almost pastry chef who became the first black woman to earn a PhD from the University of Michigan in nuclear engineering and radiological sciences. She now works at Johns Hopkins University Applied Physics Laboratory (APL), where she looks at how radiation interacts with and changes the properties of various types of materials. Her work as a math mentor for children she says is one of her highlights, as she hopes if they see someone like her doing something they never knew was possible, it might change their lives.
5. Charita Castro, Social Science Research
Area of focus: Fighting to end child labor, forced labor, and human trafficking with data and research.
More about her: Dr. Castro began her career as a survey statistician at the U.S. Census Bureau under the Presidential Management Fellowship; conducted field research on health hazards to children working on sugarcane farms under a Fulbright Fellowship; and became the inaugural Chief of Research and Policy in the Office of Child Labor, Forced Labor, and Human Trafficking at the U.S. Department of Labor. Dr. Castro has played a leadership role in measuring the prevalence of child labor in West African cocoa production used for chocolate and examining forced labor conditions in the production of electronics, such as cell phones, in Malaysia. This work is not just technical for Dr. Castro. As a child of the Filipino diaspora and daughter of Asian immigrants, research work tugs at her sense of humanity and personal obligation to be in service of others.
6. Dana Bolles, Spaceflight Engineer
Area of focus: Wears many hats at a NASA from engineering to communicating about the search for life beyond Earth.
More about her: Dana Bolles relied on equipment to be independent from the age of 2, which inspired her to become an engineer and work for a space agency. She works for the Science Engagement and Partnerships Division at NASA headquarters in science communications for the search beyond earth. With a visible disability, Dana wants break the stigma and encourage people to not let others bring you down and to believe in yourself. She brings a unique perspective, surpassing expectations on her path. Dana also volunteers for employee resource groups (ERGs) for women, people with disabilities, and LGBT communities.
7. Wendy Bohon, Geologist
Area of focus: Studies earthquakes and works to improve the communication of earthquake hazard and risk.
More about her: Geologist Wendy Bohon studies earthquakes and works to improve the communication of hazard and risk before, during and after rapid onset geologic hazards. Wendy was pursuing a career in acting until one day she felt everything shaking and she found STEM; now she works as the geologist and science communication specialist for the Incorporated Research Institutions for Seismology.
Question: Do you know a young woman who is interested in pursuing a career in STEM? Share this with her!
